Struggles with infertility – Should I have waited so long to start trying?

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Written By: Charlene Moore

Get to Know Charlene, she is married to an avid golfer and mum to a soon to be 1 year old. Recently Charlene became a stay at home mum and is trying to find her creative side all the while living life to the fullest with her family. You can get to know more about Charlene by catching up on her blog teeoffwithcharle.BlogSpot.com

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I’m writing this post because my husband and I struggled with infertility. Luckily, it was a simple fix but I can’t help but get mad at myself for waiting so long to start trying to conceive only to find out that we would have struggles in getting pregnant.

 

I was 19 when I married my husaband(23). At the time, I was SOOOO not ready to have a child. We had agreed to wait at least 2 years before trying to conceive. Those two years flew by and we enjoyed every minute of them. When the topic of children came up once again, we both agreed that us being us right now was the best. We were settling down and trying to find our career paths. We didn’t want to bring a child into our fast paced unknown crazy lifestyle so again we agreed to put it off another year or two. Fast forward two more years. We celebrated our 4th anniversary and were living comfortably. We had most of all our debt paid off, we both just received two really good jobs for our area and we were finally slowing down. Of course, like any other married couple you were 24 and 28, we got asked the question, “so when are you guys going to have kids.” I am not joking you like 15 times a day….A DAY! It drove me nuts. It wasn’t that we didn’t want kids, it was just we were loving our lifestyle and content with us for the time being. Another year went by and one of our family friends announced she was pregnant. I couldn’t have been more excited for her. But at the same time, I felt sad, that I was missing something and that something might be a baby. My husband, needless to say, agreed!

SIDE NOTE:

I hadn’t had a problem with my menstrual cycle until I got on birth control. That stuff messes you up. I got on birth control right before I got married and it did WONDERS to my body……NOT. Within 4 months, I had gained 40 lbs. I went from a size 36 B bra size to a 36 DD and i was CRAY CRAY. Let’s just say I got off of it ASAP and we had just been “careful.” Since I got off the birth control, my cycles never got back to normal.

BACK TO STORY:

After hearing our friends announcement, I decided to go get everything checked out. The 1st doctor i went to diagnosed me with PCOS, started me on some medication (that I didn’t need) and gave me what they call an HSG (where they shoot dye into your fallopian tubes to make sure they aren’t clogged). I didn’t feel like I was getting any answers so after a few months I went to another doctor. The 2nd Doctor took blood work, viewed my HSG and told me I had a little low testosterone level and my uterus looked to have a slight indent but something that was pretty hard to detect unless you look really close. Needless to say, he admitted he was no help and referred me to an OBGYN Specialist. This is when I met the blessing of a doctor that would help us become parents.

The 8 months that I dealt with clomid, prometrium. driving 45 minutes for my appointments paid off. We had surgery to remove scar tissue which was holding my ovaries upside now which in turn didn’t allow an egg to be released in June 2014. Two month later we became pregnant. We were more than ecstatic. You can read my whole story on my blog http://www.teeoffwithcharle.blogspot.com/

 

I guess what I am trying to say is, I am a firm believer for “if it happens, it was MEANT to be.” But I deep down wish that I would have gone through all of this 4 years ago. We will be celebrating our 8th Anniversary this next Monday. We are the ages of 27 and 31 and have our first child. I can’t help but think how many kids we would have if we would have tried all this earlier. If you are like me, I was in denial that something was wrong so that was one of the main reasons i kept putting it off. I didn’t want a doctor to tell me that something was wrong. But waiting, we became more mature and this parenting thing kind of seems a lot easier now that I am older. I love my child more than anything and wouldn’t change a thing about our journey but if your reading this, your trying to conceive, go to your doctor. THEY WILL HELP.

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